I was just reading submission guidelines and it had a lot of “you should be this and you should do that and you should have done this ten years ago…” Maybe publishing companies have more of a right to have expectations; however, there seems a better way to write it than a listing of shoulds.
I don’t like should. It’s an ugly word, is it not? With its shrugging shoulder beginning, it’s very vowely middle and then an ld. Say ld aloud. You make that face like Lucy tasting something terrible, or receiving bad news, or stepping in a should.
That’s exactly what it’s like – all this shoulding all over the place.
I opened up twitter this morning and saw a tweet that read, “you should be writing.” I think I’ve been guilty of a similar tweet in the past.
Then to an email from a friend telling me what I should read and should reread.
I consider a conversation from the other day. I hung up telling myself I’d probably not speak with them again. He was full of shoulds: should have done this, should do this, and shouldn’t say should to him.
I should myself enough. I don’ t need other people shoulding me.
More importantly, why do we should people? Why don’t we just accept people for who they are and what they want to do. Who am I (or you) to tell others they should be writing or doing or being or thinking?